Husband Goes Bananas When Wife Brings Him His Favorite Lunch to Work ~embarrassment~
A 33-year-old man confessed he ‘blew up’ at his wife after she went to the trouble of bringing him a meal from home, which he used to like while working.
Cause, even though my wife had lovely and thoughtful intentions with the gift basket, he suddenly felt quite seedy about what his co-workers might be thinking.
She snuck his favorite lunch into the factory where he worked, and her husband accused her of bringing him shame.
In a Reddit post, The man revealed how after being hired at his new job — but just before settling in with this wife to their move ‘a couple of months ago’ they read the book together and then watched climactic scenes. They might celebrate, his wife thought; so she mentioned to him that he [should] probably would treat himself with surprise and the same thing made him look ahead.
But his joy quickly turned to sorrow when he discovered the true nature of what she had in store.
Two days ago, she showed up at my office during lunch and brought me food that specifically made for me because it was my favorite. This was actually her suprise 🤔 ——————>🐸 ☕️ However, the incident made him “a little upset she brought it to my workplace”.
He said his harsh response was less about the fact that is own wife made him lunch, and more with what it went down from them to others.
His fellow staff — which he describes as “savage” and “very brutally honest” individuals –began to make fun of the meal prepared by his wife.
One of them laughed uproariously and quipped that his “mommy,” which is what he called his wife, was so kind to bring him lunch on the job. As his co-workers began to poke fun and laugh at him over it, he was evidently embarrassed about the fuss this had caused…and LUCKILY they continued the banter into work that very day….
And the next day I went to work and Austin was relentless with his “Oh is mommy gonna bring lunch from home again today” jokes. And, “When is mommy coming to change your poopy diaper?” ” he continued.
Consumed with guilt about what everyone said, he went home and confronted his wife as to how she embarrassed him like that wrecking the respect and honor of my guys.
She replied that all she was trying to do was something nice by bringing him lunch.
His wife is right. She only wanted to surprise you and give you a thumbs up on your success. Her fault that his co-workers decided to make fun of him for it. Instead, he should have found suitable classmates to discuss the paper with instead of taking his anger out on his wife and blaming her for it.
This is a case of what PsychCentral calls displaced anger. Alternatively phrased, the aggression that we use to anoint some part of our lives is instead heaped all over someone else. Both the surgeon and other experts said it isn’t good to be on the receiving end of someone’s ire, especially when that person did nothing wrong.“It’s not fun to be the recipient of someone’s anger, especially when it’s not even your fault,” Dr. Michael Kane — board-certified psychiatrist and Medical Director at Indiana Center for Recovery told IbTimes Singapore as reported by South China Morning Post (SCMP). Anger displacement can create tension, fighting and hard feelings between partners, friends or even family members.
He hit back: “We argued further and I ended up saying that maybe she could at least have waited till i was home to spring surprise-food on me, instead of walking in while I’m working, which made it look like my work wasn’t professional. Onno from the magazine spoke, ‘She said she came during lunch break! But I was still at work in my own VW.’
His wife suggested that he must find it easier to blame her than stand up for himself — which was pretty much the view of all but one commentator also. But if that is not possible, he needs to find a way — for the sake of peace in his workplace — NOT to take out his frustrations by blaming others. Interpersonal Therapy For Mind suggests to use exercise or even breathing exercises to help calm down the heightened emotions.
He reiterated that she should’ve “consulted” him before showing up to his job, and was angered even more when his wife stood firm and insisted that it wasn’t her behavior that caused the issue at work, but the behavior of his co-workers.
Instead of expressing gratitude that his wife took the time out of her day to do something memorable and loving for him, he turned it around on her, which isn’t fair in the slightest.
